Into The Green: Privacy Issues

Most Pagans start off "in the broom closet" as the saying goes: they begin by reading or exploring on their own. Probably you have not yet told anyone about your interest in alternative religions; or perhaps a few close friends or family members know. This is a comparatively safe but lonely position, which you may choose to maintain or change.

In the beginning, a fair amount of discretion usually works best. First, it takes time to determine which path and patron(s) to follow. Trying to explain beliefs or customs to someone else before you fully grasp them yourself can prove frustrating. Second, you can always choose to tell someone later, but once you have revealed your interests you can't undo that revelation. Third, as you grow into your new path, you enhance your abilities to assess not only reading material but also people and their attitudes.

Why is discretion important? Unfortunately, the American society does not live up very well to its ideals. Modern Pagans have lost their jobs, homes, children, and even their lives simply because of their beliefs. Discretion is important not just for your own protection but for other people's comfort. Not everyone wants to hear about last night's fabulous ritual! It might create negative feelings which can raise resentment or aggression. A little mutual consideration spares everyone’s feelings.

On the other hand, lying about your beliefs can cause endless problems. First, it undercuts your power -- if you shape the world through your words, the repercussions are obvious! Second, sooner or later you could let something slip. Third, someone could find out on their own. So the best course involves a selection of tactful withdrawals and non-inflammatory truths such as "I study mythology and ancient religions," "Right now I am pursuing my own spirituality," or even "I would rather not discuss my beliefs with you."

If you decide that you can't afford or don't want to broadcast your beliefs, you can take some simple steps to protect your privacy. First, use a "craft name" like Bluebell or Gwynhwyfar for any Pagan activities. Second, rent a post office box. Third, use an alias or an anonymous server for online networking. People can't pester you if they don't know who or where you are! Finally, if you wear a pentacle or other religious symbol, keep it next to your skin; this both enhances the contact and shields it from casual view.

Privacy-advocation organizations often advertise in newspapers, libraries, and online venues. They can teach you all sorts of creative ways to shield your beliefs and habits from prying eyes. In America, privacy protection lags woefully behind European standards, but you can help change that if you wish. As you continue to explore alternative religions, pause from time to time to assess your needs and desires in this area. Often people become progressively more and more "out" about their beliefs as time goes on. Just make sure that you control the flow of information.